No one would ever imagine that the ringing of a doorbell is the worst thing to hear. A bell rang in my family that would change the course of my life forever. My family has never been stable. You could say I come from a "broken" family. My parents tried to merge two families into one, but unfortunately things didn't work out. My mother's first children did not accept my father because he brought with him a lot of negativity. My mother wasn't perfect either; her previous marriage fell apart and she was clinically depressed. Just in this little description of my family, I should say that we are very low on the strong scale, which puts us in a crisis situation of one. With this in mind, one could see that adding a crisis to this chaos would weaken us even more, because we wouldn't know how to deal with it. Unfortunately, a crisis entered my family when I was young, which changed my childhood. Without going into too much detail on the matter, my sister Jo'Anna was murdered. This sister was my mother's first daughter. After this crisis, my mother closed down. After the funeral, she still had eight more children on her plate. My mother was shocked and didn't come out of it for years. In this way, two of my brothers went to live with their father on the other side of the country, two others moved on to college life, and the other two moved to provide for themselves. The only children left at home were the ones who couldn't go out, me and my sister. As the years passed, my mother still mourned Jo'Anna's death and never let her go. His anger at the situation fell on us. My father worked constantly. So this left me and my sister at home with a mother who can't deal with the loss, and it developed... middle of paper... filled my heart and I didn't want to admit it to anyone else for don't talk about myself feeling this way. If I had done this, many of my problems could have been solved earlier in life. Finally, all possibilities for resolving the crisis must be considered. To be honest, we didn't think about what we could do to fix it. At the time, nothing could just bring Jo'Anna back. But we could resolve the emotions resulting from death. If therapy had been done from the beginning, perhaps my life would have been happier and I would have had a mother figure in the early years. In conclusion, my sister's death seemed to have shaped my life into what it is today. We didn't manage the crisis in the right way, even if that's how life is. A ring at the doorbell will change your life, for better or for worse, it is precisely the way you handle the crisis that determines your destiny.